Irma Scenna Giampolo

Irma Giampolo

Irma Scenna Giampolo

Tribute to an Exceptional Mother
Irma Scenna Giampolo
December 2, 1919 – March 24, 2014

“In every gesture dignity and love.” I read these words, written about my mother, in her 1938 Taylor Allderdice yearbook. She lived those words every day of her life. That was her grace. That was what came naturally to her. She was a devoted wife, mother, and friend, and although she never studied to become any of those, she instinctively knew how to fulfill each role. My mother also didn’t study to become a teacher, but she was my greatest teacher.

Yearbook text

It is hard to describe the essence of my mother, because how can one truly describe love? Writers and poets have been attempting that paramount task since the beginning of literature, and there are not enough words in our language to adequately describe such a complex concept. You can talk about the functions of love, but love itself is only understood through experience. I have been truly blessed throughout my entire life in experiencing that type of indescribable love, by having the great fortune to be my mother’s son.

My mother had the rare gift of being able to transform others simply by being near them. She had a beautiful welcoming aura, and everyone who met my mother walked away with an elevated sense of self-worth. I know my father, brother, sister, and nephew would echo what I am about to say, that my mother was always present for the defining moments of our lives. She also taught me the tremendous power of gratitude and to always be grateful for what someone does for you. Any small gesture I would offer, from giving her a glass of water to helping her into the car, always was acknowledged with her enchanting and heart-warming smile, and a thank you.

Irma Scenna, yearbook photo

My mother instinctively knew that you love each person differently.  Where her children were concerned, she loved us by putting us first. She made numerous personal sacrifices to make certain that all of our needs were fulfilled, and that we were happy. She didn’t want worldly possessions; she only wanted the best for each one of us.

When I attended grade school, my mother would prepare my little brown lunch bag every day. Though this was a small gesture in and of itself, I was always proud and happy with her labor of love. Whenever there was an emergency or inclement weather, she was at the door waiting to take her children home from school. Our family very seldom ate fast food. Nearly every meal we ate was home cooked, and those who ate her cooking and baking knew that it was exceptional.

The Hilarious Hacketeers

She would have liked for me to be a choirboy, but I just can’t carry a tune. So she encouraged my aspirations to be an altar boy. My mother never compared me to anyone and always accepted me as I am, teaching me simply to do my best. She taught me to respect the nuns and priests and the good people in authority.

When I was 12 years old, my mother gave me one of her most precious gifts of love. Some teenage boys in the neighborhood were arrested for stealing, and my mother took me aside one day and said to me, “Don’t ever steal. If you need something, just ask. If your father and I don’t have it, we will find a way to get it.” For a 12-year-old boy, that was a defining moment. In that moment my mother instilled in me a deep sense of belonging and security, the very first function that love should provide.

It was at this same age that she taught me to house paint, and every year we would paint both the inside and outside of our house. It was an arduous job that she had previously done on her own, without complaint.

In high school, when I was required to wear a tie and sport coat at Central Catholic, my shirts were always starched and pressed. High school was also the time that I experienced my first heartbreak, which came with the end of a relationship. My mother was there to see me through that strange and difficult emotional time.

Alderice Yearbook cover

When I turned 21 and would venture out with my friends, returning home around midnight, she would always be awake. Her excuse was that there was some laundry or ironing that needed doing, that the floor needed a good cleaning, or some other household chore had to be completed. But I knew that the real reason she stayed awake was to make certain that I came home safely.

Another defining moment in my relationship with my mother came when I decided to move to Hawaii. Although my mother would have preferred for me to stay in Pittsburgh, her love for me never allowed her to stand in the way of my freedom and my destiny. It was at that time when she again showed me her extraordinary depth of loving. I was embarking on a journey that would eventually help lead to a change in the course of Hawaiian history. The symbol I used to make that change was street light structures. While others abandoned me for thinking that I was out of touch with reality for focusing on this particular symbol of oppression in Hawaii, my mother was there for me, even though she had little understanding of the meaning behind that symbol. She taught me that love is sufficient unto itself, and that with unconditional and boundless love, one doesn’t need anything else, including understanding.

My mother had a profound sense of wisdom that she would express in ways easy to understand. When she and my father were in their eighties, my father’s eyesight began to fail and my mother developed arthritis that limited the use of her hands. She said to my father something very simple that sums up the beauty of marriage. She said to him, “I’ll be your eyes, you be my hands.” In this one moment, she captured the essence of love, devotion, and partnership.

Young Irma Scenna

Some of the greatest treasures of my life were either taught to me or reinforced by my mother in the last few years of her life, when she had a condition that I would simply describe as memory loss. Though that condition may have taken away many of the things that my mother was able to do on a daily basis, it never took away the essence of her person.

In the initial stages of that medical condition, I watched her face the dread of losing her sense of self. She did so with tremendous courage, perseverance, and conviction. She never blamed anyone or lashed out in anger as to why such a tragedy was happening to her. She faced the challenge with her trademarks of dignity and love.

My mother impressed upon me that even with her limited memory, what you remember most about people is the true nature of their being. We would take a walk up Boundary Street and sit on a bench, and I would tell her the names of the people who lived there, from one end of the street to the other. She would pause and make a short comment at each house, usually about how she really liked the person, for my mother always looked for the good in others.

As my mother lived with her medical condition, she taught me to look to the future and never give up hope. When I would say to her, “Every day in every way you are getting better and better,” she would simply reply, “I hope so.”

Wedding photo

June 10, 1942

In the last few years of her life she also taught me to live in the moment and to do what you can, and not to dwell upon the past or what you cannot do. One of my mother’s skills was to remember the lyrics to numerous songs that she knew. Miraculously, this skill did not disappear as her memory deteriorated. I made a CD of her favorite songs, and she knew all the words to most of those songs. It was a joy to sing those songs over and over again with her.  Those musical experiences with her reinforced in me the knowledge that, in spite of our many modern medical advances, the brain is still a mystery.

Finally, my mother reinforced in me the simple notion that having fun is a fundamental human purpose in life, and it should continue for the entirety of our lives. My mother and I had innumerable precious moments of laughter together in the last few years of her life, from her many witty comments to pretending that we just arrived from the old country in Italy as we would speak to each other in broken English. We would laugh together when I would say to her “budda bing budda bang” to express how my heart felt when she would kiss me on the cheek.


Corfino 1977

Carlino and mother in Corfinio, Italy 1977

Irma and her husband

Carl and Irma, 65th Anniversary, June 10, 2007

My mother had a deep devotion to the Blessed Mother and often prayed the rosary. She also prayed very intently before a statue of the Virgin Mary, mother-to-Mother, and said that many of her special intentions were answered.

There will be no canonization ceremony for my mother, but in my eyes she stands equal to all of those individuals who have received that saintly honor.

I will close with words that I wish I could say with my mother once again, “I love you, forever and a day.”

Carlino Giampolo



Carl “Gimp” Giampolo
December 25, 1915 – May 30, 2015


 Carl “Gimp” Giampolo, of Oakland, passed away peacefully at home Saturday, May 30, 2015. He was welcomed into the world on Dec. 25, 1915, by the late Gaetano and Concetta Giampaolo. Carl was a lifelong resident of Oakland, spending 95 of his years in the Panther Hollow neighborhood. Devoted husband of the late Irma (Scenna) for 71 years, he is survived by his children, Carlino, Carol (Regis Speck) and Gary; two grandchildren, Gary and Lorraine; and two great-grandchildren, Alexis and Dante. Carl was a sergeant in World War II for the 3606 Quartermaster Truck Company in General Mark Clark’s Fifth Army, and served in the campaigns of Africa and the liberation of Rome in June 1944. He also served as an interpreter throughout Italy and was a proud member of the American Legion for 61 years. He worked for Dan DiNardo Construction Company, the city of Pittsburgh Public Works Department, and for 55 years as an usher at Forbes Field and Three Rivers Stadium. Everyone who knew Carl marveled at the brilliance and sharpness of his mind and his incredible ability to recall people and places from as far back as his childhood. He once gave an oral history interview for the Italian American Program at the Heinz History Center, and was interviewed for the PBS special hosted by Tonia Caruso about Panther Hollow and for the recent Bruno Sammartino documentary La Mia Mamma. Part of his longevity was due to the power of his will and his inner strength. Carl also loved to walk, and walked several miles every day from his retirement at age 65 until this past year. He was self-sufficient until the end. One of Carl’s favorite singers was Frank Sinatra, and like the sentiments in one of his popular songs, Gimp did things his way. America’s greatest generation has lost another great man. Carl will be entombed in the mausoleum at Calvary Cemetery, which he fondly referred to as the Marble Orchard. Friends will be received from 1 to 7 p.m. Wednesday at JOHN A. FREYVOGEL SONS INC., 4900 Centre Ave. at Devonshire Street (, in Oakland. Funeral Thursday. Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 10 a.m. in St. Paul Cathedral. Private entombment in Calvary Cemetery.

Freyvogel Sons Inc.
4900 Centre Ave At Devonshire St,

Pittsburgh PA 15213

The following article appeared in the Pittsburgh Tribune-Review on June 2, 2015.
Veteran Valued Work Ethic,
Heritage, Neighborhood
By Katherine Schaeffer
Tuesday, June 2, 2015, 12:01 a.m.

Carl Giampolo never missed a day during five decades of working construction, ushering at Forbes Field and Three Rivers Stadium and caring for his wife in the last years of their 72-year marriage.

“His devotion to his children and my mother was incredible,” daughter Carol Giampolo Speck said. “He gave with all his heart and never looked back.”

Carl Giampolo, born in Oakland’s Panther Hollow neighborhood on Dec. 25, 1915, died peacefully Saturday, May 30, 2015. He was 99.

A decorated World War II veteran, Mr. Giampolo was a sergeant in the 3606th Quartermaster Truck Company of Gen. Mark Clark’s Fifth Army in Africa and in the liberation of Rome in June 1944.

When the war ended, Mr. Giampolo returned to Panther Hollow, where he worked for Dan DiNardo Construction Co. and then the City of Pittsburgh Public Works Department. Mr. Giampolo worked a second job for 55 years as an usher at Forbes Field and Three Rivers Stadium.

Giampolo Speck said she doesn’t recall her father missing a day of work — or a single ball game — and he retired from the public works department with the maximum number of sick and vacation days unused.

“He carried that through to us,” she said. “My work ethic came from my father.”

As an usher stationed behind home plate at the ball parks, where the players’ families sat, Mr. Giampolo befriended them as well as some of the players, son Carlino Giampolo said.

“He was conscientious about his responsibilities,” Carlino Giampolo said.

Mr. Giampolo was interviewed for the Senator John Heinz History Center‘s Italian American Program, as well as for a PBS-TV special about Panther Hollow. Carlino Giampolo said his father helped him compile a history of the neighborhood, contributing hundreds of neighbors’ nicknames and women’s maiden names from his childhood. Mr. Giampolo’s keen memory was tied to his genuine attention to friends’ and neighbors’ lives, Carlino Giampolo said.

“He was interested in people,” he said. “He would always ask about you and remember what you had talked about before.”

Mr. Giampolo’s wife, Irma Scenna Giampolo, died in March 2014. Surviving are children Carlino Giampolo of Hawaii, Carol Giampolo Speck of Kennedy and Gary Giampolo of Oakland; two grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren.

Visitation will be from 1 to 7 p.m. Wednesday in John A. Freyvogel Sons Inc. in Oakland. A funeral Mass will be celebrated at 10 a.m. Thursday in St. Paul Cathedral.

Katherine Schaeffer is a staff writer for Trib Total Media.

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